Life has definitely brought many things my way, over the course of the last few years. We are quick to lose sight of what’s important. Even with negative circumstances clouding our judgement. We tend to forget how important happiness is. And why we are all deserving…
The Importance of Happiness
In 2011, I embarked on the pursuit of happiness. I realized that something inside of me was missing. And looking at this little baby (My now 3 year old), I knew that something had to change. A huge part of me died inside. My life was nothing like I had planned it to be. I was being very hard on myself, and I felt drained of everything that I was previously. My views on happiness were skewed.. I felt that I was missing so much in my actual life. And it was taking a toll on me. That empty feeling I carried on a regular basis needed to be replaced. I didn’t smile much, I never laughed and I was such an anti-social spirit.
“A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit” (Proverbs 15:13)
Are you deserving?
At that point in my life, I didn’t see the value in a lot of things, but even more important, I felt that I was undeserving of happiness. I felt that I hadn’t “accomplished enough” to be happy. That I needed to do more, in order to earn my happiness. But that was false. I realized that I was more than deserving of being happy, simply because God loved me first.
There’s no such thing as earning your happiness. I learned that happiness was a choice that we CHOOSE on a daily basis. It doesn’t choose us. Circumstance has no control over our emotions, even though we naturally link the two. But you’re more deserving of every smile you choose to wear, every time you choose to laugh and every time we choose the pursuit of happiness.
You deserve to be simply because you’re here. You’re alive. You live to fight another day. You live to smile another night. Why not choose to be happy? Misery doesn’t have to be your company.
“I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live” (Ecclesiastes 3:12)
What lengths are you willing to go through to protect your happiness?
You should be more than willing to go above and beyond for yourself. If you don’t, nobody else will. Ever. You have to see that you are more than deserving to be happy, and that no matter what you go through in life, you deserve to keep that peace. You deserve to live in that joy.
Yes, times show up to take away and ruin the best parts of us. But it’s our choice. We choose how we react, how long we dwell and when we will ever smile again. I know plenty of people that don’t guard their own happiness. They attribute their happiness to who comes around them and what they have, materialistically. You can be the richest person financially, and still be the poorest person spiritually. What’s the point of having it all, if you’re living miserably?
What does happiness mean to ME & why am I willing to go above and beyond for it?
Peace & Happiness are two of the most important pieces of my inner being. I worked super hard to get to this point. And I refuse, I GENUINELY REFUSE to let anyone or anything to take away from that. I value everything and every person that I currently have in my life. I’m super picky about WHO I allow into my space. All positive vibes and energy. SO I’m very protective of those people.
I wish happiness on every person that I have ever crossed paths with. No one should live in eternal misery… I’m not a spiteful person. If you’re someone I’ve truly cared for. I want the best for you. Even if we never speak again. I do.
Happiness to me, has been a way of life that I’ve genuinely been choosing to live every morning. Yes, I do have my “Not TODAY ” moments, just like everyone else. Clap Back Tuesdays, Rant Not Thursdays, etc. lol We all have our moments. But at the same time, I try to stay away from those thoughts. I just choose not to succumb to the negative. I would rather rejoice in the minor victories than to set my gaze upon the greater ones I have yet to attain.
This means, that I no longer beat myself where my life currently stands. I can’t stress over the things I can’t control. And I love freely. That’s what I was made for. To spread love and joy to those around me. Share that light.Every person that I hold near and dear to my heart, have a special place in it. They have their own value and significance.
I am willing to go above and beyond every limit, just to keep my peace and happiness. That’s my most vulnerable area. My happiness. I worked for it. It’s mine. I deserve to be happy. I have learned to protect myself the best way I know how. I keep my head held high and crowned with faith. That’s how I keep moving in the morning. That’s how I keep smiling. I just can’t let certain things get to me anymore.
“Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting. But A woman who fears the Lord is Worthy to be praised”
