Loving yourself first, sounds easy right?
It’s not always the easiest thing to do but it’s necessary.
Concerning ourselves with WHO we love and if they love us in return is not the most important thing in the universe. Loving ourselves before anything else is. Yes our purpose in this lifetime is to love. BUT how can you truly love others (friends, family, a child or a significant other) the right way, if you can barely love yourself?
Ephesians 5:29 – “For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church”
This in itself is everything. You cannot hate the skin that you’re in and expect others to love you as is. You cannot live your life, depriving yourself from true love. And NO I am not speaking about relationship love. The truest love, that comes after God’s love, is the love YOU have for YOURSELF. NOBODY can love you better than you. In fact, nobody will know how to truly love you if you aren’t loving you first. The way you love yourself, determines the treatment you will get from others.
If people know that you have an insecurity or that you don’t completely love yourself, some people will prey on it. They will use that to their advantage because they are aware of how you feel about yourself. We tend to lean towards the people that honestly don’t deserve our love & we end up with our feelings hurt and our hearts broken. We then feel that we are unworthy and that he/she was the best we can do. NEXT that thought. It’s not true. Not every person that we invest our feelings in are meant to be in our lives. Not everyone is going to love us the way we deserve to be loved. BUT If you aren’t loving yourself right. You cannot expect someone to get it right. Period. Start with yourself and that special someone will come. Have Faith.
Galatians 2:20 – I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.
In God’s eyes, you are worth any and every sacrifice that has been made for you. You deserve to love and be happy. You should always love yourself.
Loving who you are helps YOU find your place in the world. Think about it, the moment YOU accept yourself as is. The moment YOU see your potential. That moment that YOU realize WHY God made you and how important you truly are. You understand your purpose. You can truly take the time to love yourself. others will follow, and that ONE person you have been waiting on, will show up. Because they know that you can love them the same way that they can love you.
1 Corinthians 13:3 ESV: If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV : Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Be accepting of who you are & love yourself. No one is more deserving of your love, than you. Everything will fall into place when the time is right. Stop aiming to be the perfect person and stay true to yourself. Open your heart, figure out what you need and want. Build up your confidence & pull yourself together. Loving you, is the best thing you can do. Before you ever attempt to love someone else.