Sometimes, it can be really difficult to learn, believe and instill in you, your value. We increase or decrease our worth depending on the emphasis of the importance other people put on us… It’s starts when we’re young, our parents either make us feel like shining stars or we appear to be an annoyance. We start building our foundation of self worth, at a young age, using the “building blocks we receive from our parent(s) as the primary structure. Which can be a gift or a curse.
We started by seeking validation from our parents, and from there it moves to our friends and then significant other. And with that, we sell ourselves short. Who can really confirm YOUR worth?
Nobody but YOU
One of the things you possess, is knowing WHAT you are worth. That validation begins with you. You are the one that defines you. You are the one that modifies your “price tag.” You are the only one that can deem yourself worthy. Start with self and forget the number that was placed on you.
She’s not a 10… She’s a 31
Personally, I had to take time to build myself back up to my tip top best. It’s important for me to use Proverbs 31, when it comes to remembering and validating myself because “God told me so”…. And HE, is actually right. There is NO way on God’s green earth; that any human being will make me feel less than I KNOW that I am. From here on out. Yes, sometimes in the midst of things, we forget, we lose sight of ourselves, and tumble in a downward spiral… Constantly missing the life vest and emergency exits.. We’re human.. we’re flawed.
But once I Started picking up my bible again, I allowed God to etch the following into my spirit.. and with this, I hold my head high. “Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life”.- Proverbs 31 10-12 Being someone’s wife isn’t what increases my worth.. but one day, I will increase the worth of the man I marry. Why? Because the value I possess on my own, can do more than just move mountains.. I have the ability to create a world, that can sustain my future family. God says, “She is more precious than rubies.” and I believe that wholeheartedly. A gem could never compare to what God instilled in my spirit, I deserve to “shine bright like a diamond,” even on my worst day…. I am a 31.
What I tell myself everyday is, “if the bible says that “I’m the bomb,” why should I allow someone else to treat me as though I am less? When I know, that I am more than enough. I know that God made me to bring incredible love and light to the lives of those I touch.. and that those with hearts that are open to God’s love.. will see that.. and I won’t have to say a thing..”
Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise. Proverbs 31 30-31
Now, I am growing more humble and steadfast in God by the day. I am learning that only HE can define my worthy.. And even though I consider myself UNWORTHY of all of my blessings, God says that I am.. and As long as I keep my eyes on HIM, I will deserve each and every blessing that comes my way. Who am I to argue and say that I am not worthy because “Tom, Dick, Jane and Nancy.” told me otherwise.
I grew up feeling ugly, and worthless. No matter how hard I worked… Not matter how hard I strive.. It just didn’t seem that I would ever be good enough to the eyes that judged every “accomplishment”, I thought I had. I was never pretty enough, smart enough, slim enough, thick enough, free enough, churchy enough, popular enough… I was never enough in the eyes of the people that wanted so bad to stick that value to me. They depreciated my value… Showed me that I was less than. It took years, and I mean years, for me to look inside of myself. For me to see the being that I was becoming.. The woman I was working on, and the mother that I am. I had to look at myself through the same “unconditional eyes” that God used to look at me.
I had to breathe deep, and say, “Sierra, the bible says that you are worthy to be praised .You are worth your wait in gold, and you deserve to inherit the earth.. Now, if this is what the bible says, and I am supposed to be a woman of faith…. Why would I even begin to think that maybe God made a mistake with me…. How can I even allow myself to think any less of myself as I already have?”
I made the mistake of counting myself out before I reached the finish line. I made the mistake of giving up on me before I even allowed myself to accept my win…
I say that to say this. YOU are worthy of more than you can imagine. You deserve every inch of God’s green earth. You deserve to be happy and at peace. You deserve love. You deserve the greater things that are coming to you once you can keep your head up long enough to have faith in yourself.
I believe in you. You are everything. You are worthy. You are more than enough.